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Parting
from my brother
Dear
Giulio,
reading your e-mails about nursing homes and the Foundation
has filled me with hope, on one side, and a huge sadness,
on the other… Some days ago, in fact, I was having
a chat with my brother Stefano about the opportunity for
him to go and live in a nursing home. He would really like
to go and live with his girlfriend and this desire recently
has risen in a considerable way. Maybe it's because we are
going to sell the house in a while and he will have to move
(we don't know where yet). Or even because he sees me preparing
to move and live with my partner…
You can't imagine how much I suffer for him when he tells
me about his desire and the consequent pain not to have
the chance to carry out his plan. He is working hard to
learn how to manage a house: to wash the dishes, to make
the beds, to dust, to start to cook something and recently
even to iron. All this because he knows that his girlfriend
is not so able to do everything so he wants to take care
of her…
I really
hope he can manage to reach his target, I would like to
help more, I would do anything to help him but there are
lots of difficulties, for me and for him… actually
there is something more.
In brief,
as I said above, by the end of this year we have to move,
I will go and live with my partner and Stefano with our
mum, as it should be… There is a problem though: my
mother wants to move to a little village in the south where
we have some relatives. I won't bother you now on how negative
I believe this move will be for Stefano, I think you can
imagine them on your own.
Now
my biggest dilemma is (and I'm asking you siblings, to help
me with your suggestions): what should I do? Let Stefano
go and live in a small village with our relatives where
he won't have any chance to attend a school or training,
not to mention finding a job? Or keep him here with me?
Take into consideration that my monthly salary is just 400
Euro (Stefano earns 150 Euro per month), I don't have a
contract, I'm still studying for my degree, I still have
to start and build my career and my partner has got a temporary
job contract…
What
do you think I should do? Please don't judge me as a material
person, I have stressed the economic difficulties on purpose
without taking into account the emotional aspects of this
situation.
Maybe you can better understand how I'm feeling now, my
big concern and above all my huge indecision: I would never
leave my brother but I'm terrified of finding myself alone
in a very difficult situation and full of responsibilities!!
A hug,
Silvia
3rd November 2002
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